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Be aware of these silent relationship killers

Cheating is one of the major causes behind divorce in California. However, there are other factors that lead to divorce, including criticism, contempt and sarcasm. Some reasons for divorce are so insidious that a couple does not even realize they are going on before it is too late.

One silent relationship killer that some couples have dealt with is stonewalling. This happens when one individual in the relationship shuts down during conversations and arguments. If one of the spouses is not making an effort to communicate and solve problems, the problems are just going to fester. One partner may find that they get agitated to a point where they can no longer discuss certain issues respectfully. Couples can nip this problem in the bud by openly and honestly discussing their feelings.

Talk show host files for divorce from husband of 20 years

California fans of 54-year-old talk show host Wendy Williams may have heard that she and her husband are getting a divorce. The couple has been married since 1999 and has one son.

According to the divorce filing, irreconcilable differences over the past six months have led to the breakdown of the marriage. A representative stated that the couple is working together toward the divorce and have asked for privacy.

High-conflict parents may consider an alternative to co-parenting

Co-parenting arrangements are growing in popularity, and divorcing parents often hear about the numerous beneficial outcomes co-parenting can have on their child, such as the child having a higher self-esteem, learning good communication and problem-solving skills, and having a better psychological adjustment to the divorce. However, those beneficial outcomes often do not occur when parents have a contentious relationship because the frequent communication necessary for co-parenting can result in the child being exposed to frequent parental conflict.

If you and your ex have difficulty avoiding conflict, a traditional co-parenting arrangement may not be an appropriate choice. A traditional co-parenting arrangement may result in your child being exposed to frequent parental conflict, which can be distressing and can make your child feel like he or she must choose sides. However, there is a variation of co-parenting that allows you and your ex to have some space from each other after the divorce, while still being involved in your child’s life.

Shared parenting gaining increased acceptance

For the better part of the last century, mothers in California and the rest of the country were more likely to be favored when there was a need to make custody decisions. Mothers still generally enjoy more rights with their children after a divorce than fathers, but the prevailing trend in the 21st century is toward shared parenting or joint custody whenever possible.

With child custody cases, two types of decisions are typically made. One is about legal custody, and the other one concerns physical custody, or where a child sleeps at night. Most courts start with a presumption of joint or equal legal custody. With physical custody, an equal split isn't always realistically possible because of issues with logistics, such as where the child goes to school.

Effective co-parenting strategies for divorcing couples

Divorce could be confusing for children, even when their parents reinforce the fact that the decision had nothing to do with them. Following the separation, children often have to spend time with their parents in two separate households. Although it might be challenging for California parents to put their ill feelings for a former spouse aside in the interests of their children, there may be great rewards in store for those who can accomplish it.

Except in extreme cases where child custody & visitation is restricted,, no parent should interfere in their child's relationship with the co-parent. The bond between a child and their parent is separate from the connection the two adults share. Undermining the other parent, discouraging visits or sharing unnecessary details about the divorce with a child could backfire on the offending parent. It's typically more effective to allow a child to discover flaws on his or her own.

Assuming a mortgage during a divorce

Many California couples who are going through the divorce process will have to decide what to do with the family home. Because of its value, the family home is often a source of contention during a divorce settlement.

At the end of the divorce settlement, one party may end up with control of the home. While that might seem like a win in the short-term, real estate can present various financial challenges. For example, if the home still has a mortgage, it has to be determined who will be responsible for paying it. There are some divorced couples who trust each other enough to keep their joint mortgage. Another option is for a spouse to refinance the joint mortgage in their name, giving them full responsibility and control of the payments.

Cryptocurrencies are becoming a thorny divorce issue

Many high-net-worth individuals in California and around the country have taken an interest in cryptocurrencies in recent years due to their surging values and the ease with which they can be transferred overseas. Alternative currencies like Bitcoin are also an increasingly thorny issue in divorce cases. This is because cryptocurrencies have become a popular way for divorcing spouses to hide their assets, and placing a value on these highly volatile holdings can be challenging even when they have not been concealed.

The ability to trace cryptocurrency assets is largely dependent on how they were acquired. Cryptocurrency purchased from online exchanges can often be found by examining bank statements or other financial records, but buying Bitcoins directly and then moving them offshore makes tracking extremely difficult. The kind of individuals who engage in this type of transaction tend to be careful, which makes tracing their assets even more challenging.

Taxes, divorce and dependents

California parents who are divorced or separated may want to take advantage of the tax benefits that come with claiming their children as dependents on tax returns. However, they should be aware that if multiple taxpayers claim the same individual as a dependent, complications are likely to arise.

Taxpayers who are able to claim dependents can benefit from filing as the head of their household. They may also claim certain tax credits, such as the Child and Dependent Care Tax Credit, the Earned Income Tax Credit and the Child Tax Credit.

Study suggests technology may make divorce easier for kids

There's no denying the fact that parents in California have good reason to be concerned about their kids when it comes to certain aspects of technology. However, a new study suggests social media and texting may actually be beneficial for children looking to stay connected with their parents following a divorce. In order to come to their conclusions, researchers evaluated data from a select group of divorced parents with pre-teen and teen children.

The prevailing school of thought is that kids tend to adjust to divorce better after child custody and visitation arrangements have been worked out if both parents are able to remain civil. However, researchers found that it didn't matter if ex-spouses were able to get along. Instead, communication was the most important aspect of the parent-child relationship.

How agreements can protect a business in a divorce

If one or both people who are getting married in California own a business, there are steps that can be taken to protect that business in case of divorce. One approach is a prenuptial agreement. If the couple is already married, they can create a postnup. This agreement might establish the company as a separate asset that will not be part of the process of property division in divorce. The agreement could specify whether the spouse will receive a part of the value of the business and how that value will be calculated. If the two are co-owners, they might want to continue running the business after a divorce or one may sell to the other.

With no pre- or postnuptial agreement, it is still possible to put protections in place. Organizing documents may specify an amount that will be paid to the spouse in case of divorce but establish that the business will not be transferred. If the other spouse does any work for the company, that spouse should be paid at market rate.

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